Updated: Apr 14, 2019
This has been something I’ve had to get really comfy with over the last few months. The 3rd trimester of pregnancy is essentially a complete surrender of your body, and for me it was one of the mind too. I couldn’t do so many of the things I was used to being able to do, and in some respects I lost sight of myself for a bit. Now life with a 2 month old and a 5 year old at home while building a business, maintaining a home, wifing like a boss, and keeping my shit together - that’s a whole new season with its own unique challenges. In both instances my “normal” has been completely turned upside down. My progress has slowed. My priorities have shifted. It’s hard not to feel like I’m going backwards. It’s like I spent 3-4 months taking massive leaps forward only to now be taking just as many (if not more) steps back. It can be really hard and a huge blow to the ego. So here’s what I’m doing to honor each season in its own unique way while not allowing myself to fall victim to the guilt that could ensue from choosing to do so.
Ego - I’m checking my ego at the door daily. I’m talking first thing when I wake up. That shady bitch has no place here right now. I appreciate her for all she does to protect me, but right now her efforts are more harmful than helpful. So what does that actually look like? Me intentionally reminding myself of my current situation - “I have a 2 month old baby and I’m doing the best that I can. My girls are fed, happy, and healthy, and that’s more than enough right now. I deserve time to slow down. It’s okay to rest. This season is temporary. I am okay. I am doing enough.”
Patience - I’m also being incredibly patient with myself and my girls. If you’ve ever been around kids, you know they’re super challenging; challenge enough on their own without adding in anymore stress. So I’m releasing my own expectations of what our days “should” look like. I’m releasing my expectations around how they “should” act. I’m releasing my need to control our every circumstance and trusting that we’re all figuring it out as best we can.
Comparison - I’m eliminating all comparison. To do that I ask questions (Why am I feeling this way? What’s the trigger beneath the emotion?). I affirm myself and my current efforts and abilities. And then I return to gratitude by listing out everything I have to be grateful for in the present moment. This really helps me stay in my lane and not compare my chapter 1 to someone else chapter 27.